I often get asked if (and when) I am going to have another child. I often (and by often I mean about 50 times per day) think about it and weigh the pro's and con's. Invariably, the conversation turns to Maddie and that is the selling point. If someone could guarantee me that should I get pregnant, I would get to hold a living, breathing baby at the end of my pregnancy, I would go drag Keith's butt inside and get to work on it.
However, as you all know, no one can do that. So, instead I toss and turn about it.
The Pro's
A baby
A sibling for Emmy to grow up with
A baby
Con's
The chance of repeating the pain I felt at Maddie's passing.
I am 35, which means that whole "Advanced Maternal Age" thing which basically means higher risk, which I would be anyhow because of Maddie.
I know that my baby ache is amplified as I have a pregnant coworker who is absolutely adorable with her belly(she is due in June).
I would love to get pregnant tomorrow. However, I need to lose weight and I need to have my blood pressure meds changed to something that is safe in pregnancy. My hope is that by losing weight, I can get off the meds as my blood pressure spiked in pregnancy with Maddie and after I broke my ankle when I gained way too much weight. However, the weight loss is slow.
So, the final word on the subject? Yes, I want another child, my body aches to feel a baby move again, however...
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i wasn't aware about Maddie, maybe i should read more of the earlier post. I am sorry that you went through all those pain.
anyway, you knew your body well and you know if you are ready for another baby. you have to consult this with your gynecologist and see if she can give you a go signal. of course it is always a blessing to have a child but you also have to consider your own risk.
xoxo
My heart breaks for you..believe me any Mother that's lost a child has the same worries & fears! No one can guarantee a healthy delivery..you know that! But before I got pregnant again I talked to my Doctor,s. Who in turn promised to keep a better eye out on me..which they did! No problems with Toxemia the 2nd time. Doug born safe & sound & I cried tears of joy!! Love Trudy
PS Jan
After Doug was a year or two old I tried to give him a brother or sister. But I had 3 miscarriages which wiped me out & I quit! When he got older I wanted to try again..but it really was too late. I would check with a specialist about your ''chances'' if I were you! Take care Trudy
Thanks Ladies...I don't want to rule it out...but even dr's can't give me a straight answer. LOL GP says no, OBGYN says plan for it and get meds changed etc before...but has no other issues.
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